I would rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not.
And I qualify that statement …
I would rather be hated for who I am, (OR who you think I am,) than loved for who I am not (OR who you think I am not.)
Love is …
a state of being
a verb – something we do
something we give to another
what we emanate …”
BiBi – poet author
Love, just saying the word evokes a sensation. It’s supposed to make the world go round, be the solution to life - poets have written about it, philosophers have pondered it, musicians have sung to us of it.
Love, desired by many, a gift a curse, anything we make it to be. Love is the pursuit of many, we fight for it, walk away from it, say it and sometimes do it, and we are taught that to have a great love in many ways completes us. AND in many ways it does, however it is only part of the process of self-completion.
The word love originates from song, a song of praise, something which is dear and beloved. It is a state of being, something which emanates from within. It is something that cannot be demanded or expected and as a place of being it is something we share with another. We complete who we are through our ability to love.
We are loved according to how we love. How well you love yourself will determine how well you will be loved. When we engage in the act of love through our ability to love from self we participate in the movement of love which has no end or beginning and this extends beyond who we are to the object of our live to the outer realms – indelibly.
Thought to ponder …
What are your beliefs regarding love?
What is your experience of love?
How do you demonstrate love?
Do you contribute to the act of love?
Do you emanate love?
How is this evidenced?
What is love to you?
Are you continually in pursuit of love?
Do you feel love?
Do you share love?
How do you know you are loved?
Can you list ten ways you love?
Have your experiences of love being positive or negative?
Is your heart open to receiving love?
How well do you love yourself?
What do you do to love yourself?
“But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love.
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup,
but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread,
but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous,
but let each one of you be alone.
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts,
but not into each other’s keeping,
For only the hand of life can contain your hearts.
And stand together,
yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”
extract from “The Prophet” by Kahlil Gibran
Today, do something to show love to yourself.
Think kind thoughts
Recall a time you achieved a goal or aspiration
and immerse yourself in the feeling
Treat yourself to something you really enjoy
– a massage, time out, something sweet…
Stand up for yourself where normally, you wouldn’t
Tell someone you love them –
giving love comes back 100-thousandfold
Affirm goodness in your words
YOU are GREAT,
YOU are LOVE
Somewhere in the world -
a babe cries;
children demolish wrapping paper to get to their gifts;
a homeless person reaches out;
a person with illness prays for another season;
a parent mourns the loss of their child;
a city is rebuilding after disaster, a village waits for the next to hit;
someone is fighting, another is laughing;
a traveller misses their family;
a mother prepares a Christmas feast;
someone has lost hope, another is alone;
a soldier wishes they were home;
a child is suffering never knowing what Christmas is;
a group gathers in church, another gathers to fight;
a loved one is missed;
someone rejoices in Christmas whilst another says ‘who cares about Christmas!’ -
somewhere in the world,
maybe in the next suburb… house… country
there is a ‘someone’ who needs touch, shelter, peace, health, love, a miracle -
and right here in my world,
I send a prayer and a blessing to all of the ‘someone’s,’
for they are more than just a ‘someone’ -
they are a fellow being.
1. You listen to each other and realize that each person’s point of view is equally important.
2. Each person is willing to invest time and energy to address any unresolved issues and fix them together.
3. You talk to each other without blame, defensiveness, trying to win, or giving unsolicited advice.
4. Everyone has access to the same information and there are no secrets or hidden agendas. This includes Social Networking,emails and celll phones.
5. You enjoy learning about the other person.
6. You respect and trust each other.
7. You do fun things together and share interests.
8. Each person gives the other some space if they ask for it.
9. Everyone takes responsibility for his or her own behavior and for being as healthy as possible