Recipes for Success

 “We are creators. As creators, we are not so much here to discover our soul mate – wisdom – fame – health, as we are here to CREATE them. With every decision we make we are creating our lives.”

 We are creators. As creators, we are not so much here to discover our soul mate – wisdom – fame – health, as we are here to CREATE them. With every decision we make we are creating our lives. So as you read the following ‘Recipes’ remember always – you have control – you can create OR co-create with whoever it is you believe is your higher being. You can co-create with your inner self, your higher-self.

For example, if you yearn for a relationship and are looking for your soul mate, spend less time looking for your soul mate, and more time CREATING your soul mate on an inner level. If you aspire towards fame or to be famous – CREATE your fame. If you want greater health, be your own health expert – CREATE great health. If you desire more wisdom or to be more knowledgeable, turn on your wisdom centres and CREATE your knowledge base and wisdom. If you wish for greater wealth – get to and CREATE a sense of wealth within and be a magnet for abundance and prosperity.

The following Success Recipes give you the opportunity to create and generate success within your life through your desires and the subsequent outcome. To succeed in our creations or desires it is necessary to understand what the term success and succeed mean. For most, the term success is synonymous with failure. If we do not succeed we fail. Let me make one thing clear – SUCCESS has nothing to do with FAIL.

The word success comes from the Latin successus (1537), meaning result, outcome, or succession. Thus success is the succession or desired outcome. It is the step after deciding upon the outcome – we decide upon the desire and then create thus succeeding.

The word succeed comes form the Latin word succedere (1375), meaning to come after. Breaking that word down further into two parts – succ, to go near and – cede, to yield to. Therefore to succeed we go near to our desire and then yield to it thus becoming the success having created our desired outcome.

As you read through the following Success Recipes take the power of these words with you – decide upon your desire – create it – go near it, be it – yield to it, succeed – allow the succession generate the desired outcome –success.

Romance Recipe

“How well you love yourself will determine how well you will be loved.”

Fundamental to many cultures and societies is the feeling of being divided, separate, or being cut off from something or someone else and thereby lacking a sense of lacking something. That something is usually a soul-mate. It seems many people yearn for the experience of the one great love. Poets have written about it, philosophers have pondered it, musicians have sung about it and we are taught that to have a great love in many ways completes us. AND in many ways it does, however it is only part of the process of self completion. Furthermore, when we meet the person who is designed to be our soul-mate or mate of purpose as opposed to a companion or learning mate, we do in fact feel a sense of completeness. It is not so much that they complete us BUT rather, we are complete in the soul-mate search journey.

To have a soul mate you must first be your own soul mate.

Being in love is not just about being in love. It is about knowing how to function in love. Every interaction we have with another human being is an opportunity to give and receive – to seek a higher place within ourselves.

Having a soul-mate requires being a soul-mate to yourself. Many times it has been written that a soul-mate is a reflection of whom we are. Maybe you have experienced unsatisfactory relationships and partnerships in the past. Each of these experiences reflected back to you an aspect of self – a sad thought but a real one! The only way we shall attract the person of our dreams is TO BE that person. How well you love yourself will determine how well you will be loved.

Love isn’t something we give to another it is what we are and emanates to others. Romance and love are not something we do to win another. Romance and love is an extension of our heart, a demonstration of love put into actions. Romance is a gesture of love and comes from an open heart – it is an act of giving and it starts with self.

Some questions to ask yourself:

  • How well do you love yourself?
  • How well do you romance yourself?
  • How well do you know yourself, your likes, and dislikes, what makes you cry or laugh?
  • Do you know what pushes your buttons?
  • Can you list ten things about yourself that you can take into a relationship?
  • Can you list ten things that you know you need to work on in a relationship?
  • Can you talk about your past lovers with learning and understanding OR is it still with pain?
  • What have you learnt about yourself from your past lovers?

Romance Behaviours

  • Eliminate photos and paraphernalia associated with your past loves
  • Make a list of what you are looking for in a relationship
  • Make a list of what you can contribute to a relationship
  • Reflect on your past relationships and what you have learnt about yourself and how you are different
  • Make a list of the behaviours that didn’t work in your past relationships (either yours or theirs) work on eliminating them or transmuting them into the opposite i.e. you were needy they were aloof. Work on your neediness

Romance amulets

  • Imagery or artwork representing lovers
  • Two pink or red candles set side-by-side
  • A red, pink, or white heart-shaped box
  • Two round or heart-shaped red or pink pillows
  • Two red silk roses in a pretty vase
  • Fresh flowers with red or pink blossoms
  • A pink faceted crystal, hung over your bed or in a power spot
  • Imagery or artwork of pairs of mandarin ducks, doves, or swans the Chinese symbol for “double happiness”
  • Any image or object that represents love, marriage, or romance in a way that has strong personal meaning for you

Wealth Recipe

  “Wealth is about our ability to fully experience the richness of life – viewing all that life has to offer as abundant and feeling rich within.”

Most of us would like to experience more wealth and prosperity in our lives. To start a successful experience of abundance it is important to think about what beliefs we have about money, abundance wealth and prosperity.

It is about our ability to fully experience the richness of life – viewing all that life has to offer as abundant and feeling rich within.


ABUNDANCE means flowing with love, prosperity, happiness and health. The only thing that stops us receiving abundance is a belief that we do not deserve it.

PROSPERITY is a state of mind. Financial success always includes prosperity – the experience of having enough of what we need and want in life on all levels.

We can be more prosperous with one pair of shoes, knowing that the universe will provide us with another pair when we need it, than if we have a 100 pairs of shoes and are worried that there won’t be any more.

To have wealth you must first be your own wealth…

Stuart Wilde (Self Empowerment author wrote) – “Wealth will never be a factor of how much money one has. Rather, it is always a factor of how one FEELS about what money one does have.”

Money is a thought form. It is a symbol of energy and as such, it is has no real, intrinsic value. It is neither good nor bad, positive nor negative. It is impartial. Money is free energy. What traps money is the mind and emotions of those who own it. How do you feel and what do you think when you pay the bills – OR when you receive money.

If you were to analyse the feelings of a tramp and a mega-millionaire, you would be amazed to find only a very slight variation in how each feels about abundance. Then if you look at people and compare the successes with the failures, you will again find that the difference between them is only that of a thought form.

Most people feel they don’t have enough money and those emotions serve to separate them from what money they do have. Our world is abundant. There is a surplus of food, money and resources. In fact, if the total wealth of the world were divided equally among all of its citizens, every man, woman and child would be a millionaire. Yet we experience lack of it. Why? Because only a very small percentage of people are free of negative emotions around money. Abundance and wealth isn’t about hard work – energy requires flow not difficulty.

Think about your affirmations OR how you affirm money. Look at this list and mentally tick which ones you use:

  •  I can’t afford it
  • I’m too broke
  • Money doesn’t grow on trees
  • I’m always down to my last cent
  • That will cost me an arm and a leg
  • How much will that hurt
  • Make a dent in the bank
  • That will hurt the hip pocket
  • Money burns a hole in my pocket
  • How much will that set me back
  • A stitch in time saves nine
  • A penny saved is a penny earned
  • You have to work hard to get money
  • Nothing comes easy

Some questions to ask yourself:

  • What do you want the money for?
  • What would you do with it?
  • How would you feel if you had the money you desired?
  • How much money would you like to earn per week, per month?
  • How will you receive this money?
  • How does it feel to receive this much money?
  • How will you spend it?
  • How well do you treat yourself as wealthy?
  • List all of the ways in which you feel prosperous and abundant
  • Make a list of your debts and then a list of your wealth – even them out
  • Do you exude wealth ie in talk, thought, action, demeanour
  • How well do you receive in life?
  • How well do you give?
  • Do you give more than you receive?
  • List the ways in which you feel prosperous in

Wealth Behaviours

  • Keep what money you have in order
  • Pay bills on time
  • Save some money, at least 10% of your income
  • Keep financial records orderly i.e. wills, superannuation, insurances?
  • Clean out your purse or wallet
  • When paying bills affirm that it will come back to you ten-fold or a thousand-fold
  • Develop financial skills
  • Develop plans for the future
  • Address issues that can contribute to financial stress in your life such as debt
  • Make a list of all of your de-wealth affirmations, attitudes
  • Clean up and de-clutter – allow your home and your demeanour to emanate wealth and prosperity.
  • Think abundance! That is having plenty of everything – food, time, energy, friends, love, opportunities etc.

 Wealth amulets

  • A bowl of coins (add your loose change to it every day)
  • A “lucky bamboo” plant, or anything that symbolizes success and prosperity to you
  • A picture of your dream house, or a model of that luxury car you long for, is an effective money symbol because it has personal meaning for you
  • Goldfish
  • Clean up and de-clutter – let your home exude wealth
  • A big wallet – put away the old, broken, small one

 Fame Recipe

 “True fame comes from a place of honour, esteem and authenticity.”

Khalil Gibran (January 6, 1883 – April 10, 1931) Lebanese American artist, poet and writer), wrote – “Fame is the shadow of passion standing in the light.” Being famous is not just about being a celebrity like a movie star or musician. Fame is about your repute in the eyes of others – family – community – peers – colleagues. It is generated through high self esteem, following passions and pursuing the highest possible outcome for yourself and others.

The first step is feeling famous about your self. Doing and behaving in repute, integrity and honourable character. It is about knowing your values, what is important to you and operating from a value system. True fame comes from a place of honour, esteem and authenticity. When one lives these attributes, this emanates as a beacon, it is as a guiding light.

To have fame you must first be your own fame

The word proud is Middle English, meaning brave, virtuous, to be good. In that vein – being proud – brave, virtuous, to be good – will bring you fame.

The first place to being the fame journey is with self, the people around you your community. Building a reputation for yourself builds honour and respect and creates an energy that sets you apart form others. This is the first step to becoming famous.

Famous people are famous because they have done something outstanding. Famous people remain famous because they share their fame. Sharing ones fame begins with being proud of whom you are. Behaving in a proud manner which exudes fame is the first step. This can be pride in your work, as a parent, child, sibling, friend, volunteer in the community. If you are an aspiring writer – be proud of ALL of your works and your efforts, likewise if you are an artist, musician, actor, politician, inventor, home-maker.

Some questions to ask yourself:

  • How is your health esteem?
  • What are you passionate about?
  • What do you do in your community- family?
  • How do your friends view you – with high esteem or low?
  • Can you describe your character, values?
  • Do you criticise and judge yourself?
  • Do you give yourself praise for your achievements?

Fame Behaviours

This is your life. Create your own standard to measure your fame

  • List all the areas you feel proud in
  • List your achievements so far, no matter how little they may appear to you
  • How do you want to be famous?
  • How will you feel if you are famous?
  • Who do you want to be famous to? I.e. the world, your community, your family or friends?

Fame amulets

  • Design a glamorous business card
  • Work on a famous signature – develop your own
  • Collect pictures of famous people you admire
  • Wear something personal which represents your sense of pride in self
  • Bring out trophies, certificates, awards you may have received and put them around your home

Health Recipe

 “Our true state of health is not a goal to be reached but a way of living”

Most people want to improve their health. Most people want longevity – longevity that is with well-being. We have the ability to live longer today – to live longer and healthier.

Health is a large word. It embraces not only the body, but the mind and spirit as well.

Health’s primary goal is to restore harmonious function so that every part of the whole is doing its work and is in open communication with every other part. Holistic applications are not about fighting disease – rather it is about restoring harmony – and within this environment disease cannot be tolerated. Well-being is dependent upon all of our processes working at optimal levels. That is holistically. That is – mentally physically, emotionally and spiritualty.

To have health you must first be health

Our true state of health is not a goal to be reached but a way of living. Thus, health is a state of being and we are our own health. Author, Astrid Alauda wrote, “My inner advisor is dying to heal me.” As we listen to your bodies we attune to its needs mentally physically, emotionally and spiritualty. We have the answers within and our body gives us messages and requests. True health requires a balanced and fluid connection between the physical body and the subtle body and the environment we live in. Thus, the goal is to live the health you desire and apply this to your environment.

Self acceptance and self care are integral to health, this applies to our environment, and it encompasses eating healthy, thinking healthy, living in homes which support this through fresh foods, clean environments and awareness of artificial and toxic substances. Maintaining a clean and toxic free environment applies also to our thoughts, words, behaviours, intentions and deeds. Two excellent toxic cleansers for the emotions and mind are weeping and laughing.

Weeping and laughing are two of the easiest and fastest ways to release toxins, raise energy levels and decrease stress.


The act of weeping is clearly understated and almost stigmatised, yet it is one of the most powerful cleansing tools we can use for both mind and body.

Emotional tears are a response which only humans have. All animals that live in air produce tears to lubricate their eyes. But it is only humans that possess the marvellous system that creates the act of weeping.

Biochemist William Frey has spent 15 years as head of a research team studying tears. His scientific studies found that tears created from ’emotional crying’ carry toxins not normally found in the tear created to simply moisten the eye. The research team compared the normal moisturizing tear with the tear caused by emotion and found that stressful tears contained far more toxic biological by-products in addition to ACTH hormone which is associated with high blood pressure, heart problems, peptic ulcers and other physical conditions closely related to stress. Weeping, they concluded, is an excretory process which removes toxic substances from the body that normally build up during emotional stress.

The simple act of weeping not only cleanses and detoxify, it raises the body’s energy levels, which assists people to feel better both physically and physiologically. Suppressing tears increases stress levels, and contribute to diseases aggravated by stress, such as high blood pressure, heart problems and peptic ulcers.

And so it is… weeping contributes not only to the health of the individual. But more than that at a more lateral level, tears are an extremely effective method of communication, and can elicit sympathy much faster than any other means, thus deepening connections with others.


The act of laughing is gaining more insight today and accepted as a therapy as demonstrated through laughing clubs.

There appears to be an assumption that we need something funny to laugh at. The contrary is true. Children laugh approximately 80 to 100 times per day. Children appreciate the relationship between humour and enjoying life. They will laugh at anything! If you ask them, “what’s so funny,” they may say something like, “nothing!”

By the time we reach adulthood, we laugh only 5-6 times per day. It is not so much that we have lost the ability to laugh or forgotten how to but we simply do not find the time to or are too stressed to find the humour in – nothing.

Some of the benefits of laughter are:

  • Enhances T-cell production, which boosts the immune system
  • Triggers the release of endorphins, the body’s natural painkillers
  • Releases toxins
  • Provides for improved cardio-pulmonary function
  • Lowers blood pressure
  • Reduces stress hormones
  • Increases muscle flexion
  • Raises levels of disease-fighting proteins called Gamma-interferon and B-cells, which produce disease-destroying antibodies
  • Produces a general sense of well-being
  • Dissolves tension, stress, anxiety, irritation, anger, grief, and depression
  • Lowers inhibitions
  • Releases pent-up emotions generating a sense of well-being.
  • Helps to integrate both hemispheres of the brain

Laughter has the ability to raise the vibrations and energy levels of humans  and is becoming one of the most  low maintenance, free, all rounder holistic balancers available for better health.

 Questions to ask

  • Are you your perfect weight?
  • Do you eat nutritionally and exercise?
  • Do you have any health conditions that are being unattended?
  • Do you use addictive substances or prescription drugs?
  • Do you drink enough water, 2 litres per day and get enough sleep?
  • Is your environment conducive to health?
  • What constitutes good health to you?
  • Do you use the medical profession, support your health through alternative practices?
  • Do you listen to your body; do you pay attention to symptoms?
  • Do you allow yourself to weep?
    Do you laugh daily?
  • Do you love, nurture or hug regularly?

Health Behaviours

  • Take frequent energy breaks in your day and ensure you look at a pleasant scene, read poetry to balance the cerebral hemisphere stress patterns
  • Listen to revitalising music
  • Allow your body to  absorb the sounds of nature, birds or running water
  • Smile as often as you can. Do it several times a day as an exercise
  • Think positively and walk proud
  • Dwell on positive thoughts – love, faith, trust, gratitude, and courage
  • Eat well, drink plenty of water and supplement with herbs and minerals if you skip meals
  • Get to know your body, develop an intuitive knowing regarding its rhythms and needs
  • Breathe deep into and expanding the belly
  • Laugh long and frequently
  • Nurture your soul by honouring its needs and requests
  • Do nothing – rest, restore, revitalise
  • Give yourself a definite wake up and sleep time. This helps you feel well, sleep soundly, and awake refreshed
  • Watch how much sugar, caffeine, and other stimulants you use. People who are stressed almost always begin to use stimulants as a boost. Stimulants put the body under even more stress. Eating more raw foods and vegetables can help your body deal with stress instead of increasing it
  • Exercise three times a week. Enjoyable exercise, in moderation, reduces stress. It will make you feel better right away
  • Dancing, listening to music, reading, working on a craft, playing a musical instrument, meditation, and biofeedback also relieve stress

 Health Amulets

  • Smile and laughter are your personal amulets and you can wear them anytime
  • Positive thoughts are an inner amulet which will reflect outside
  • Clean clothes make you feel healthy
  • Pictures of healthy environments and people
  • Healthy looking plants and furnishings
  • Clear, clean and clutter filled homes
  • Clear, clean and clutter filled bodies

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